Nina Dobrev Reveals What She's Looking For In A Boyfriend, Now That Ian Somerhalder's Out Of The Picture

Nina Dobrev let loose about what she wants in a man. Ian Somerhalder's out of the picture...so curious men, pay attention!

Nina Dobrev is sizzling up the cover of September's Cosmopolitan, and she talked about what she wants in a man. Relationships, for one-commitment-phobes not wanted here. Nina prefers relationships to casual dating-but chemistry has to be there, she said.

"You either have chemistry or you don't, but a lot of what attracts me is a guy's mind and humor and talent," says Dobrev, 24. "I need to get to know all those things before I fall for someone. I'm not a one-night-stand kind of girl. I'm a relationship girl."

Still, Dobrev says, men don't have to look prefect. A little scruffy around the edges is just fine.

"A man in a suit looking put together and dapper is very attractive, but I also kind of like the I-just-rolled-out-of-bed, a-little-bit-of-scruff, effortless, not-trying-hard-but-still-sexy guy," the "Vampire Diaries" star says. "If a guy spends more time looking in the mirror than I do, that's a problem!"

And men should be polite, too, she said-with a nod towards the "guys on our show" (perhaps thinking of Ian?)

"I'm progressive in some ways, old-fashioned in others. I like it when guys hold the door open and are sweet and thoughtful," she says. "The guys on our show are really good at that."

Dobrev is currently single after breaking up with her Vampire Diaries costar Ian Somerhalder in May.  And, for now, she wants someone independent.

"People aren't defined by their relationships," Dobrev told Cosmo. "The whole point is being true to yourself and not losing yourself in relationships, whether romances or friendships."

Gal pals are important, too, she said. Gal pals like Julianne Hough are important-but they don't talk about their relationships  with their exes much. "That's not what our friendship is about. Unfortunately, that's how it's perceived, but there's more to us."

"It's been cool to find an active buddy -- there are lots of girlie girls around," she adds of Hough. "We don't talk about makeup; we talk about life."